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(Picture: Axelle/Bauer Griffin/FilmMagic)There are so many words to describe women who don’t have children. Personally I’ve taken to calling myself a non mum.
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Watching Angelique Kerber lift the trophy, I suddenly balked at the commentary. ‘Well, she’s not amumlike Serena, but she’s cradling that trophy like a baby’.
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And the world is ‘non mumshaming’MeghanMarkle, too, commenting from the moment she tied the knot about whether she’ll have kids.
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